LollyLikesFATshion: February 2014

Red & Green Should Never Be Seen

Friday, February 28, 2014

What Being A Fat Woman Is Really Like! Cosmo Questions Answered

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Claire posted the challenge on Twitter to answer these Cosmo Questions HERE and link up to see what others had to say and if they have similar answers or if we are all different. I loved the idea so these are my answers.

How do you feel when other women around you complain about feeling/being fat?

It used to really bother me because the women were usually a lot smaller than myself but now I am happy with my body and size and I really don't care. I just wish they loved their bodies and were as happy as I am.

How has your body image changed since high school? College?

I hated my body from a young age. I was always the fat kid. Always on some stupid diet and even trying diet pills. They all worked but as soon as the diet ended I would pile the weight back on and more. A vicious cycle. Now I eat what I want and when I want. I don't judge myself for the choices I make. I am much happier now.

Have you tried dieting? What happened?

(See above)

Do you think in your case your weight is partly or entirely genetic?

here are fat members of my family and there are skinny members. It is mostly down to my lifestyle and food choices.

Do you consider yourself healthy? Have there been instances where people assumed you were unhealthy?

Overall I am a healthy. When it comes to food choices I eat fruit and veg and don't add sugar to drinks and always drink diet options. I also eat cake and chocolate. Everything in moderation. Being fat most people assume you are unhealthy and eat chocolate all day. Which is not true in my case. My health and my size have nothing to do with each other in reality. I am type 2 diabetic which runs in my family and have been for 12 years. It has been under control for the past 11 years and was told this week and can stop taking medication as it is so well under control. I also take thyroxin for a thyroid condition which also runs in my family. Both these things have nothing to do with my size. I am unfit due to not being able to leave the house much with a baby on oxygen but not unhealthy. These things are not related in my opinion.

Are your parents both supportive of you at the weight you're at? Have they always been?

No and No! My mum was the fat kid and even at a size 12 she still thinks she is fat. Her issues were pushed onto me from a young age. My dad has a belly but is fit and he has the biggest issue with my weight. He is constantly telling me I need to diet and will die young. He was just last year trying to bribe me to get a gastric band operation. And even since having my son 7 months ago and taking 6 months for my C-section scar to heal due to my diabetes he still insists I should get the op! Crazy!!! I have tried to explain to them both that I am happy the way I am and don't want to lose weight but they just do not understand how I can be happy the size I am. That is their issue and not mine so I don't worry about it now.

How do you think retailers can improve clothes for plus-size people?

They need to ask plus size people what they want. Make different length and fit options. Use models of different shapes and sizes and not just the 6'3 size 12/14 model. Short and fatter! Get plus sizes back into stores so people can try things on and have a choice on the High Street again. Make plus sizes normal by making all clothes in the larger sizes and not having plus ranges! Which are usually aimed at older women and not all ages.

Do you think plus-size women are judged differently than plus-sized men are? How?

Both sexes are classed as lazy and unattractive for being fat which is just bollocks! Some of the most beautiful people I know are FAT! Everything in society is geared to hate fat people and it is wrong and needs to be shown for the bullshit it is.

Do you think there’s an assumption made/stereotype that exists about plus-size people? How would you respond to it?

As stated above and I respond by living my life the way I choose and taking no shit from anyone over my size. I treat people as I would like to be treated and same goes for how they treat me. If you give me abuse then I will give it back. I don't let anyone tell me how and what I should wear for my size. I get naked for body positive shoots to show people that you don't have to be a certain size and be unhappy if you are not a certain size. I support all body types and genders.

Do you think there’s ever a right way or time to express concern about someone’s weight?

People are not stupid! If they feel shit about their size then they will do something about it. It is not my place to tell them they should! If someone is ill looking from losing or putting on a drastic amount of weight in a short time I may suggest they see a doctor to make sure their is nothing serious wrong with them. Other health issues cam make this happen not just food intake.

What are the worst things people have said to you about your body?

Being the fat friend of all skinny girls and a teenager is hard! They boys all made jokes about my size and one even calling me a "beached whale" in front of a group of friends. Needless to say I was crushed and went home to sry for an hour. I was bullied by an older girl at high school until I elbowed her in the ribs as she walked past me in the hall. There will always be bullies! The sick sad asshole who take pleasure in humiliating others. I don't take it now. I fight back with words and call them out on being vile human beings. I don't get upset anymore I just fight back. I have the self respect to do it now and it feels so much better than crying for an hour saying why me!!!

What have people said (or do you wish they’d say) that would compliment your body or appearance?

My Gran always said "refuse nothing but blows!" I take any compliment given. I get lots of compliments now and I think it is due to me being happy with myself.
Do you find yourself hanging out with women who are closer to your size?

I have friends of all shapes and sizes. I have sought out fat friends and am happy to be part of a plus size community The Yorkshire Rad Fat Collective that puts on Plus Size Clothes Swaps and other Events.

How has your weight affected your sex life, if at all?

I have always had a very active sex life with many partners and my size bigger or smaller has no effect on it at all.

When you've been single, has your weight affected your dating life?

Only when I was young and unhappy about my size I never had boyfriends or dated. As soon as I was happy with my size I found it pretty easy to find dates. The most sexy thing is confidence and I am not shy about sex so never had any issues finding dates and sexual partners.

Do you feel weird if the guy you’re with only dates larger women?

Not at all. It is a preference. My preference is a shaved head and beard! Size does not bother me.

Do you feel weird if he's only dated slimmer women before you?

No. I have dated Very large people, average sized people and skinny people. Size is not an issue for me at all. I fall for someone based on their outlook on life, how they treat others and me, if they make me laugh and how good they make me cum! lol

Check out these other bloggers answers below:

Claire

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Naomi

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Sian

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Lucia

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Rebecca

http://theplussideofme.com

Michaela

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